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The Death of Marriage April 21, 2009

Posted by earthking in Uncategorized.
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Over the last few years the debate about gay marriage has been heating up.  I don’t have a ton of time, but wanted to write down a few thoughts.  Many conservatives claim that gay marriage would undermine the natural institution and would help to further destroy the family.  While I agree with what they say, I disagree that this is the only thing or the major issue when dealing with the destruction of the institution of marriage. 

Both of my parents were baby boomers.  They were married for about 10 years before getting divorced.  Both of my uncles got divorced after a few years of marriage.  My older brother got married after finding that his girlfriend was pregant.  That marriage ended in divorce.  The most interesting comment I have ever heard was from my little brother, who is in his mid-20’s.  He said he never will get married because in the end, most people who marry get divorced, so why go through the hassle.  My point is this:  over the last 40-50 years, divorce has become so prevalent in our society that the institution of marriage has become a joke.  The vows no longer matter to people.  In fact, there is over a 50% chance your marriage will end up in divorce. 

The second thing that undermines marriages is when two people live together before getting married.  Studies have shown that those who co-habitate before marriage end up having a higher divorce rate.  However, I can’t blame those who choose to have this type of trial marriage.  How can anyone blame them when so many baby boomers who got divorced waited to live with their spouse until marriage.  People nowadays are wondering how they can have a successful marriage, and waiting to live together before marriage has already been exhausted and appears to have failed. 

So, gay marriage is not the first issue that has helped destroy the insitution of marriage.  In fact, there is such a small minority of people who are gay, around 5-6% of the population, that it is not the biggest issue of our day.  I just had to write down these thoughts.  I oppose gay marriage, but the elephant in the room is divorce.

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1. Know the Truth - April 21, 2009

“So, gay marriage is not the first issue that has helped destroy the institution of marriage. In fact, there is such a small minority of people who are gay, around 5-6% of the population, that it is not the biggest issue of our day. I just had to write down these thoughts. I oppose gay marriage, but the elephant in the room is divorce.”

You are absolutely correct; it is DIVORCE that has destroyed the marriage institution!

Every 45 seconds in the United States a family is torn apart by divorce.

Watch the Divorce Ticker:

http://tinyurl.com/d6dvzs

http://www.cadz.net/

2. dwade - April 22, 2009

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3. Scott Erb - May 12, 2009

I have no problem with gay marriage — how does it affect anyone if the gay couple down the street is legally married or simply acting like they are without a certificate from the state? However, the issue of divorce is complex. It is common because of cultural changes — some good, some very bad — and a shift in viewing marriage as a commitment and hard work to something that should bring happiness (partners want their partner to ‘make them happy’ — which is impossible.) It is the same cultural change that brought rampant materialism and consumerism (selfishness) which has caused the current economic crisis. In some cases, divorce is necessary. And before kids are born, there is little harm done. But once a couple has children, unless one is unrepentantly abusive, I think they have a moral obligation to work to keep the family together.

earthking - May 13, 2009

While I can understand that homosexual acts will not change whether or not gays can marry, by allowing gays to marry, the state effectively approves this type of behavior. I may one day concede that it is up to the states and not the federal government to pass laws on this. Obviously there would be issues with states not recognizing another state’s gay marriage. I just don’t think the federal government should be putting a stamp of approval on that kind of behavior. Many, many people think it is wrong, and the voice of the people should be followed.


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